I am always in awe when I see our dahlias poke through
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Comments (11)Although I live in an excellent dahlia area, what I do is take off the two side buds near the flower and the 2nd set on down the stem to get longer ones for bouquets. The more buds removed the more new buds it will set so I do not feel I need to worry about sacrificing these. They are just there for "Insurance" in case something happens to the main bud, so the plant can set seed before it dies. Since we are not letting that happen, disbud early and often! I Have about 120 plants and they are keeping me in more flowers then I can use. About a third of the new ones are not blooming yet because of our cold early spring and summer. I have one dark wine purple one that is so pretty but sets side buds bout 5" down and then another set about 9" below those. I have to disbud it early or do it when I pick them. Can't tell you the name...hired garden help (while recovering from getting new knees), and they pulled all the stakes with the name tags before piling on the compost! A little problem I never thought to clear with their boss (THey were non-English speaking) Some "Not too hot" day I will head out there with my dahlia book, catalogs and markers and try to reestablish the name tags! It might be "Imperial WIne". Each petal has a little fringing. Karmas are beautiful here, but the yellow one opens up to show its eye too soon. I bought the new "Karma Choc" and it is dynamite! A deep red black. Customers love it! I seem to have lost FUchiana over the winter...will have to replace it as it was a mainstay....See MoreI know I'm doing the right thing but this feels awful
Comments (6)I'm so sorry for what you're going through. For what it's worth, I was in a long marriage to an emotionally abusive man, and I also (now, not then) have a child with special needs. I can't imagine how you could possibly have dealt with all that you've been dealing with for as long as you have been. It has to have been intolerable. Don't worry about how you're "supposed to be feeling" -- Just go with what you do feel, and allow yourself to feel it. Give yourself permission to let go for a few days. If you're sure it's the right decision, then tell the kids that you're sad that you and their father could not be happy together (not sad you're splitting), and that it's important to allow yourself to feel sad for a few days -- But that you know it is the right decision and that you'll be happier next week. It might actually help to put a date on it -- I'm going to allow myself to be sad until Friday (so they don't worry too much). Then CRY. Just hug your kids and cry, and let them cry too. Then pull yourself together after you've washed out some tears and start moving forward. You may be surprised actually behow relieved you feel. More than anything else, I felt relieved, and like I finally had a chance at reaching something good. You may be scared right now, but IME, it's much easier to have NO help than to have almost no help and lots of criticism. Clearly, you've got incredible resources, and you're going to be OK -- probably better than that....See MoreI am unhappy and my marrige is awful...what should i do?
Comments (12)You made it about your "friend" not us. Why was "he" even part of the post if he's not relevant? And, hardly anyone believes in cheating, but still many do it. Cheating starts in the heart....look up what "Covet" means. Why is he even spending time with a married woman? If your husband was doing the same "non cheating" with a woman what would you think? I mean, physical sex aside, it sounds like you are considering maybe someday marrying this "perfect" guy...that must fall into some sort of cheating. Right? I don't care if you even believe in God, but you brought up the Christian part, again, not us. And, your story seems to get worse depending on how defensive you get. At first, your husband never laid a hand on you or his real kids, now it appears you are "abused and beat". Which is it? And by the way, none of God's Christian laws that I know of say anything about "THOU must be Happy"....you may "THINK" and "HOPE" God wants you to be happy because you want it, but it has never been one of his laws. Happiness is often found in the next life, not this one. Of course, no one wants you or your kids to be abused unmercibly, but you should be working on resolving your problems one way or another WITHOUT another man in your life. I know you want to hear..."Your husband is so awful, so go be with the man of your dreams and live a wonderful happily ever after life that you deserve"....but that's probably not going to happen no matter how much you want it. I have friends that have done and thought the exact same way you did, and you may think I am trying to be mean and hurtful, but I really am trying to help you. Things just won't turn out all rosy like you think, no matter how much you hope or think you deserve it. Believe it or not, I really am trying to help you and your kids. I could recommend some books about living with people with chronic pain, even abuse, etc... but it doesn't sound like you're interested in anything but approval to do what you want to do. Sorry, you don't like my advice. But sometimes the hardest things to hear are those that are true....See MoreYikes I see so many white kitchens! Am I making a mistake?
Comments (68)PineBaron I'm with your DW on white or really dark, but I've had the white (although not my first choice at the moment) and gonna go for the really dark. Glad to hear I have a buddy in the process :) Sounds like you have a similar color scheme and other ideas I'm going for. I don't know why it makes me feel good to know that I'm not out in lala land with my ideas. lol omg i just clicked on the link! are you kidding me. that is gorgeous property, view, home! Loveit! the interior, the kitchen is what i envision on a smaller scale. I even have several sizes of that long bar hardware pictured in your kitchen drawing. Love the stacked cabinets . May I ask how tall those cabinets are stacked? such a cool look. Just wondering if there is a rule for stacking sizes? I like it when the bottom one is still somewhat tall then the top more of a square. Not sure if I have the ceiling height, but looks like you will! Living room, bathroom love. wow thanks for sharing all the pics. i'm gonna go read the whole thread and I'll be following you! good luck your blessed to have all that, enjoy! thanks again for sharing :)...See Morerouge21_gw (CDN Z5b/6a)
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