elderly traveler
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susanzone5 (NY)
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Elderly - when is enough, enough?
Comments (5)We have a neighbor like that. Yes, she does have a brother in another state. But she doesn't seem interested in having him her to help her. She is 80 and he is in his late 70's. She asked another friend of hers to be the executor of her estate. She is asking her to sell many of her things now. She also asks my husband to do many things for her. She gets free lawn cutting from a local group. I think she can afford to have this done. She owns a very small . house. Cluttered and this may be why the friend has suggested that she sell many of her collectibles. She doesn't eat well, as she doesn't cook. She uses our phone to talk long distance to call her family. I don't think she has actually talked to her brother but his wife always answers the phone. She writes to them and I wonder if he reads her letters. So sad. Do what you have to do to help your friend. Whatever the cost. Mary...See MoreWhen life changes for the elderly
Comments (22)auntjen ~ It sounds like your G & G will be fine, and I mean that sincerely. Yes, it is a monumental change, yes it does affect the whole family, but it's a very smart and unselfish move they made. Backstory: My dad developed Alzheimer's when he was in his late 50's. We know that now because when he was finally diagnosed (in the mid-to-late 1970's), there was little or no information, let alone research, available. As my father becamse increasingly affected by the disease, it became harder and harder for my mom to care for him. By the time she knew she needed help, they were both in their early 70's. She made a very smart decision by moving back to Manhattan where the resources and help were more readily available. I'm an only child and she got her support and strength from me. I lived about 2 hours away from them and would spend the weekends in the city with them, staying with my dad while my mom took a much needed break from being his full-time caregiver. Even though I was not the primary caregiver, I was married and working full-time, which made things a tad difficult to juggle. I thank goodness that, at that point, I didn't have children because that would have only made things more difficult. We had been researching various alternatives with the support of my dad's doctor, focusing on nursing homes, and we found a very good one that was affiliated with Mt. Sinai Hospital. She put dad on the "waiting list" and after what seemed like an eternity, my dad went to The Jewish Home and Hospital for the Aged, part of Mt. Sinai. What a blessing that was, not only for my dad but for my mom, who was becoming increasingly worn out from caring 24/7 for my dad. Many family members could not understand how she could put my father in a home. Terrible, thoughtless comments were made and she was made to feel like a pariah. And this was when her family should have been there for support. Very few family members visited my dad in the nursing home. I'm sure they figured that he wouldn't recognize them. But what about my mom? Wouldn't she recognize them? Wouldn't she appreciate the small show of support? But I digress, except to say that I remember which family members were there for support (and which weren't). I have forgiven them, preferring to think that they really didn't understand the result of their actions. Your parents and you and your family are doing the right thing, even though it might feel wrong. Your G & G did the right thing for your family. They made a selfless decision for the good of their family. That's love....See MoreReading suggestions for an elderly gentleman?
Comments (21)For anyone looking for "talking books" or audio books for free--- check out Librivox.org . They have audio of thousands of titles that are in the public domain. So they are older books, usually classics, but they are excellent and a good free alternative to what may be found in your local library. It is available either online through the website or on an app through your smartphone. While it might be difficult for a 91 year old, it is very easy to use and set up if you can help him with that. I have greatly enjoyed Mark Twain's "Innocents Abroad" from there, it is quite funny and entertaining. Maybe that would be a good suggestion. Here is a link that might be useful: Librivox...See MoreMy neighbor just got her elderly dog back from a 7 day kennel visit..
Comments (46)Dogs don’t just pee “anyway”. That is nothing more than the excuse of a lazy owner. Dogs pee when they signal that they need to go and are ignored or when they are physically unable to hold it. I hope they aren’t just drawing the conclusion that it’s because she’s old as well. There are lots of reasons as to why a female dog might be incontinent, like a bladder infection or a problem stemming from when she was spayed. Heck, our dog had a problem with incontinence an it ended up being because of the cr*ppy prescription food the Vet wanted her on. It started shortly after we started feeding it to her for some tummy problems and it stopped immediately when I chose to stop feeding it to her. These owners need to step up to the plate and take care of the old girl the way she deserves to be cared for. Scenarios like this always baffle me. I mean, why have an animal if you don’t value it’s companionship and/or enjoy taking care of it? Nicole, I hope you don’t step back and let the owners care for their dog. She obviously needs a compassionate advocate who can speak for her and gently encourage the owners to do better....See Morediane_v_44
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